The fact that you are able to marry who you love is amazing-–and long overdue. But just like any couple, LGBT couples face challenges. Even though same-sex marriage is a wonderful thing, sometimes, it does not end happily ever after.

As a member of the LGBT community going through a divorce, you may be facing a lot of stress and emotional turmoil. Here is how you should protect and take care of yourself as you end your marriage with your partner.

Make choices that make you proud

Prioritize your authenticity. There is nothing worth compromising your pride and who you really are. Make decisions that bring you a sense of pride. A divorce is a perfect time to start envisioning the life you want to live for yourself. While you may feel ashamed, sad and angry, use this moment to focus on what you truly want out of life. There is no reason to stay in a marriage that does not serve your happiness. You are doing the right thing.

Avoid letting negativity run the show

Breaking up is a hard thing to do. No one is going to claim it can ever be fun or enjoyable. However, you can reduce the pain and agony by resisting the temptation to act on your negative emotions. While it is normal to feel fear, fury, confusion and hurt, you do not need to let those emotions control the process. Instead, make positive decisions that make things easier on you, your children–-and yes-–your ex.

Reach out for support

There is nothing that can stop you if you have the right people around you. Develop a strong support team full of friends, family members, therapists and attorneys. The worst thing you can do is attempt to do it on your own. Keep in mind that there is strength in numbers.